Back with more brained clutter as promised!
Again I am not a doctor or professional, just a chick passing on my experiences.
Babydancing,
in other words getting it on with your husband with the hopes of conceiving a child, doing the deed, horizontal mambo, bumping uglies, play hide the hot dog, or "let's rub one out before I fall asleep".
Once you've been in the ttc game for a while you will begin to refer to the act of making love as Babydancing or BD.
It's funny how we use these words in our every day vocabulary.
A nurse once asked me if my husband and I had relations the night before I took my trigger shot for IUI. Without thinking, I said "oh yeah we babydanced twice"
She looked at me like I was an idiot.
The first thing my newest Re told me was to never stop making love, no matter what the diagnosis.
He stated that, just because doctors or tests may say one thing , it doesn't mean it can't happen.
I guess this really is true if you still a uterus and ovaries.
So in my opinion, if you love our husband, and he loves you, never stop sharing your love with each other. Even when you have dealt with so many disappointments or failures, remember to still come together in an act of love.
A few rules to babydancing if you are chasing that egg
It is quality not quantity, well let me explain.
Making love every or every other day during your fertile time, not having a marathon session one day a week .
Not that anything is wrong with that but it's a lot better statistically to spread the seed out to make sure you've got your bases covered. Give you husband's reserves a chance to replenish between those sessions.
Do not use lube unless it is specifically designed to be sperm friendly. Most other lubes trap the sperm and slow them down. You can still get pregnant using these but it's not favorable if you are TTC.
Oral sex is nice, but saliva is not. It can harm the sperm. sorry save this for afterwards.
You being aroused is a plus. You being aroused causes the blood to flow to all right areas. You being aroused gets your natural lubricants flowing, which is good, sperm need a warm wet place to swim in.
Don't you want to enjoy it too!
You having an orgasm after he ejaculates is also a good thing, but I'll get to that later.
Keep yourself a nice towel and designate a babydance pillow.
You'll be amazed at how a good pillow can factor into the equation.
It can help with love making positions and once your husband ejaculates, you can use it to elevate your hips to allow gravity to help guide the sperm to your fallopian tubes.
Positions, be creative and enjoy yourself. Once you get the whole idea of what gives you good penetration and elevated hips, you can come up with tons of positions you may have never though off.
However, with this in mind, you realize that you on top and reverse cowgirl is probably out of the question.
Okay, once your husband reaches orgasm, you stop everything and get those hips elevated.
Let gravity help those boys get to those eggs.
Use your trusty pillow to get comfortable and YOU stay there relaxed for about 20 minutes.
Don't hop up and run to the bathroom. (Not urinating right after sex doesn't always give you a bladder infection)
You need those boys (sperm) to get to where they need to.
Some say having an orgasm after your husband ejaculates can help the cervix to pull the sperm up.
Hey it doesn't hurt!
If your husband can't help you, you can always handle it yourself by hand or with a small assistance device( vibrator).
However, I would avoid using any device that involves penetration.
I found one the fit on the tip of my finger. It's awesome. it is!
Now relax there and let the positive feelings wash over you.
I have unexplained infertility. I have had IUI's and IVFs. I have conceived naturally and twice with IVF and still have no children. . I haven't given up babydancing. I may not always follow my own formula, but I still enjoy babydancing with my husband.
Sometimes I feel that I may give up trying with A.R.T. but I will always babydance with my husband.
Hey, the stars might align and it might just happen for us.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Monday, October 17, 2011
Just An Update Between Blogs
So sorry I haven't been back to tackle things or dumps some of my experiences on you lately.
I hopefully plan to continue my brain garbage rants about Bding (baby dancing)and HPTs soon.
My mother is doing quite well and will be having another stint replaced in her liver as a preemptive procedure to maintain her comfort and stabilized condition. Her appetite has returned and she is gaining weight. Her jaundice has cleared up also.
A few days ago my MIL (mother in law) was diagnosed with a stomach cancer and will be having surgery to remove most of her stomach. This may buy her more time.
So now we are dealing with terminally ill mothers as well as infertility.
We are so overwhelmed mentally right now.
I am trying to help my husband cope with all this and still cope with my own mother's condition.
Before work, he usually prays the rosary.
Yesterday he told me that he didn't want to pray anymore.
I don't know what to tell him because my faith is so damaged also.
In the next few weeks we plan to squeeze in a quick vacation to recharge our batteries at bit.
My FET has been scheduled for the 15th of December.
With so much riding on the success of it all, I'm not sure I want to even attempt the transfer.
Recently an Internet buddy had a FET of 3 perfect embryos and did not conceive.
I'm beginning to not think of my frozen embryos as babies anymore.
Not thinking of them as future children.
My emotions are all over the place when I think about them.
I feel so detached from them and don't think of them as I once did.
They seem like two raffle tickets sitting at the bottom of a bucket of a full bucket.
It feels like a long shot.
Whew, though it may seem like things are falling apart, I am still holding it all together and taking it each day at a time.
I hopefully plan to continue my brain garbage rants about Bding (baby dancing)and HPTs soon.
My mother is doing quite well and will be having another stint replaced in her liver as a preemptive procedure to maintain her comfort and stabilized condition. Her appetite has returned and she is gaining weight. Her jaundice has cleared up also.
A few days ago my MIL (mother in law) was diagnosed with a stomach cancer and will be having surgery to remove most of her stomach. This may buy her more time.
So now we are dealing with terminally ill mothers as well as infertility.
We are so overwhelmed mentally right now.
I am trying to help my husband cope with all this and still cope with my own mother's condition.
Before work, he usually prays the rosary.
Yesterday he told me that he didn't want to pray anymore.
I don't know what to tell him because my faith is so damaged also.
In the next few weeks we plan to squeeze in a quick vacation to recharge our batteries at bit.
My FET has been scheduled for the 15th of December.
With so much riding on the success of it all, I'm not sure I want to even attempt the transfer.
Recently an Internet buddy had a FET of 3 perfect embryos and did not conceive.
I'm beginning to not think of my frozen embryos as babies anymore.
Not thinking of them as future children.
My emotions are all over the place when I think about them.
I feel so detached from them and don't think of them as I once did.
They seem like two raffle tickets sitting at the bottom of a bucket of a full bucket.
It feels like a long shot.
Whew, though it may seem like things are falling apart, I am still holding it all together and taking it each day at a time.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
What I've Learned About Ovulation ,From one TTCer To Another
I promised to come back soon with more of my brain clutter.
Again I am not a doctor or professional, just a chick passing on my experiences.
Just temping, for me,can be confusing.
I usually use the temperatures on my chart for reference.
If done right it can show when you ovulated, if you ovulated, or about when you will ovulate the next cycle.
It can pinpoint ovulation but usually after the ovulation day has occurred.
For me, my temps would dip right before I ovulated. Once my temps shot up and stayed up, I was pretty sure I ovulated.
This is why you may need to rely on other methods of predicting your fertile times.
Good CM helps the sperm swim to where they need to go.
CM or cervical mucus around your fertile time may resemble egg whites or get slicker.
In blunt terms, you will feel wet, OK
Some women don't get this from time to time.
There are a few "fertility friendly" lubricants you can use that help
Staying well hydrated helps and some supplements I mentioned before also help.
Sometimes using an over the counter Gufenesin-only tablet (for chest congestion expectorant only, you don't want the decongestant) once a day leading up to your Ovulation time can help get you that good slick cm.
It can help you hubbies too.
During my IUIs it was discovered that my husband had very viscous semen.
It would take forever for the lab to "wash" or separated the sperm from the seminal fluid.
The nurse instructed him to take the Gufenesin once a day leading up to my ovulation.
It was supposed to help his guys (spermies) break free and swim better.
Remember to stay well hydrated when taking this medicine.
If the second line on your OPK is as dark as or darker than the control line, you will probably be ovulating soon if not in the next couple of days.
This usually means it's time to get busy and babydance.
Some women can check the position of their cervices and tell if they are ovulating.
I was aware of my cervix but didn't make a record of it.
Here's some basic info http://www.justmommies.com/articles/cervical-charting.shtml
Some women are pros at using a scope to look at their saliva to predict ovulation. I think one of my blog buddies is good at this.
It's probably cheaper but I never did it.
My moods also help me predict my fertile time.
I become really touchy feely cuddly around my fertile time, or sometimes very randy!
I get ovulation pains around my ovulation.
I don't get menstrual cramps so I can't compare the two.
My ovulation pain is usually a pressure from inside, a dull aching around my ovaries.
The best way I can describe it, is "achy insides".
With A.R.T cycles, whether IUI or IVF, these pains usually occur when your follies get big or ready to release an egg. With my A.R.T. cycles, it was greatly increased, greatly. It was painful to beardown to go tinkle.
Once we get pass all the temping, charting, peeing on OPK's, etc,etc, finally it's time to do the babydance!
I try to do it before, during, and after the time I expect to ovulate.
Just to make sure I got all bases covered.
A few years ago, I learned about lunar ovulation or the Jonas method.
It's a theory that a woman can spontaneously ovulate at other times based on the moon phases.
A theory that women have 2 fertility cycles.
There used to be free charts and downloads.
It's now a pay service. I think I may have a copy of mine saved somewhere.
You needed to know your exact date and time of birth, and I think even location on some of the old websites.
There was a chart that showed the probability of whether you would conceive a male or female child, the probability of a healthy pregnancy, and the days of your lunar ovulation.
Seems crazy but it was kinda nice to think that you have and extra chance each month.
I think I may have had my actual ovulation coincide once with the lunar chart.
For a few cycles, I did ovulate on the full moon and that had nothing to do with my predicted 'lunar ovulation" day.
This is what used to be the free site. http://lunarconception.com/
Sometimes, all things seem in order and you just don't ovulate at this time.
A few times I have gotten all the green lights and ovulation didn't occur at that time.
Many times that OPK test line was almost there then fades only to return a few days later.
This usually happens to me if I have an illness.
It was like my body took a step back to deal with the illness and then resumed its planned course.
My ovulation was delayed once by a case of food poisoning. I did ovulate that month, but eight days later than my usual ovulation date.
Well I think this is getting long, and my brain is conking out on me.
I'll come back in a few days with some more brain junk I've accumulated during my TTC journey
Please feel free to comment or post any tips or info on ovulation you would like to share.
Again I am not a doctor or professional, just a chick passing on my experiences.
Just temping, for me,can be confusing.
I usually use the temperatures on my chart for reference.
If done right it can show when you ovulated, if you ovulated, or about when you will ovulate the next cycle.
It can pinpoint ovulation but usually after the ovulation day has occurred.
For me, my temps would dip right before I ovulated. Once my temps shot up and stayed up, I was pretty sure I ovulated.
This is why you may need to rely on other methods of predicting your fertile times.
Good CM helps the sperm swim to where they need to go.
CM or cervical mucus around your fertile time may resemble egg whites or get slicker.
In blunt terms, you will feel wet, OK
Some women don't get this from time to time.
There are a few "fertility friendly" lubricants you can use that help
Staying well hydrated helps and some supplements I mentioned before also help.
Sometimes using an over the counter Gufenesin-only tablet (for chest congestion expectorant only, you don't want the decongestant) once a day leading up to your Ovulation time can help get you that good slick cm.
It can help you hubbies too.
During my IUIs it was discovered that my husband had very viscous semen.
It would take forever for the lab to "wash" or separated the sperm from the seminal fluid.
The nurse instructed him to take the Gufenesin once a day leading up to my ovulation.
It was supposed to help his guys (spermies) break free and swim better.
Remember to stay well hydrated when taking this medicine.
If the second line on your OPK is as dark as or darker than the control line, you will probably be ovulating soon if not in the next couple of days.
This usually means it's time to get busy and babydance.
Some women can check the position of their cervices and tell if they are ovulating.
I was aware of my cervix but didn't make a record of it.
Here's some basic info http://www.justmommies.com/articles/cervical-charting.shtml
Some women are pros at using a scope to look at their saliva to predict ovulation. I think one of my blog buddies is good at this.
It's probably cheaper but I never did it.
My moods also help me predict my fertile time.
I become really touchy feely cuddly around my fertile time, or sometimes very randy!
I get ovulation pains around my ovulation.
I don't get menstrual cramps so I can't compare the two.
My ovulation pain is usually a pressure from inside, a dull aching around my ovaries.
The best way I can describe it, is "achy insides".
With A.R.T cycles, whether IUI or IVF, these pains usually occur when your follies get big or ready to release an egg. With my A.R.T. cycles, it was greatly increased, greatly. It was painful to beardown to go tinkle.
Once we get pass all the temping, charting, peeing on OPK's, etc,etc, finally it's time to do the babydance!
I try to do it before, during, and after the time I expect to ovulate.
Just to make sure I got all bases covered.
A few years ago, I learned about lunar ovulation or the Jonas method.
It's a theory that a woman can spontaneously ovulate at other times based on the moon phases.
A theory that women have 2 fertility cycles.
There used to be free charts and downloads.
It's now a pay service. I think I may have a copy of mine saved somewhere.
You needed to know your exact date and time of birth, and I think even location on some of the old websites.
There was a chart that showed the probability of whether you would conceive a male or female child, the probability of a healthy pregnancy, and the days of your lunar ovulation.
Seems crazy but it was kinda nice to think that you have and extra chance each month.
I think I may have had my actual ovulation coincide once with the lunar chart.
For a few cycles, I did ovulate on the full moon and that had nothing to do with my predicted 'lunar ovulation" day.
This is what used to be the free site. http://lunarconception.com/
Sometimes, all things seem in order and you just don't ovulate at this time.
A few times I have gotten all the green lights and ovulation didn't occur at that time.
Many times that OPK test line was almost there then fades only to return a few days later.
This usually happens to me if I have an illness.
It was like my body took a step back to deal with the illness and then resumed its planned course.
My ovulation was delayed once by a case of food poisoning. I did ovulate that month, but eight days later than my usual ovulation date.
Well I think this is getting long, and my brain is conking out on me.
I'll come back in a few days with some more brain junk I've accumulated during my TTC journey
Please feel free to comment or post any tips or info on ovulation you would like to share.
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