Back with more brained clutter as promised!
Again I am not a doctor or professional, just a chick passing on my experiences.
Babydancing,
in other words getting it on with your husband with the hopes of conceiving a child, doing the deed, horizontal mambo, bumping uglies, play hide the hot dog, or "let's rub one out before I fall asleep".
Once you've been in the ttc game for a while you will begin to refer to the act of making love as Babydancing or BD.
It's funny how we use these words in our every day vocabulary.
A nurse once asked me if my husband and I had relations the night before I took my trigger shot for IUI. Without thinking, I said "oh yeah we babydanced twice"
She looked at me like I was an idiot.
The first thing my newest Re told me was to never stop making love, no matter what the diagnosis.
He stated that, just because doctors or tests may say one thing , it doesn't mean it can't happen.
I guess this really is true if you still a uterus and ovaries.
So in my opinion, if you love our husband, and he loves you, never stop sharing your love with each other. Even when you have dealt with so many disappointments or failures, remember to still come together in an act of love.
A few rules to babydancing if you are chasing that egg
It is quality not quantity, well let me explain.
Making love every or every other day during your fertile time, not having a marathon session one day a week .
Not that anything is wrong with that but it's a lot better statistically to spread the seed out to make sure you've got your bases covered. Give you husband's reserves a chance to replenish between those sessions.
Do not use lube unless it is specifically designed to be sperm friendly. Most other lubes trap the sperm and slow them down. You can still get pregnant using these but it's not favorable if you are TTC.
Oral sex is nice, but saliva is not. It can harm the sperm. sorry save this for afterwards.
You being aroused is a plus. You being aroused causes the blood to flow to all right areas. You being aroused gets your natural lubricants flowing, which is good, sperm need a warm wet place to swim in.
Don't you want to enjoy it too!
You having an orgasm after he ejaculates is also a good thing, but I'll get to that later.
Keep yourself a nice towel and designate a babydance pillow.
You'll be amazed at how a good pillow can factor into the equation.
It can help with love making positions and once your husband ejaculates, you can use it to elevate your hips to allow gravity to help guide the sperm to your fallopian tubes.
Positions, be creative and enjoy yourself. Once you get the whole idea of what gives you good penetration and elevated hips, you can come up with tons of positions you may have never though off.
However, with this in mind, you realize that you on top and reverse cowgirl is probably out of the question.
Okay, once your husband reaches orgasm, you stop everything and get those hips elevated.
Let gravity help those boys get to those eggs.
Use your trusty pillow to get comfortable and YOU stay there relaxed for about 20 minutes.
Don't hop up and run to the bathroom. (Not urinating right after sex doesn't always give you a bladder infection)
You need those boys (sperm) to get to where they need to.
Some say having an orgasm after your husband ejaculates can help the cervix to pull the sperm up.
Hey it doesn't hurt!
If your husband can't help you, you can always handle it yourself by hand or with a small assistance device( vibrator).
However, I would avoid using any device that involves penetration.
I found one the fit on the tip of my finger. It's awesome. it is!
Now relax there and let the positive feelings wash over you.
I have unexplained infertility. I have had IUI's and IVFs. I have conceived naturally and twice with IVF and still have no children. . I haven't given up babydancing. I may not always follow my own formula, but I still enjoy babydancing with my husband.
Sometimes I feel that I may give up trying with A.R.T. but I will always babydance with my husband.
Hey, the stars might align and it might just happen for us.
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